Lately, I’ve been consumed with thoughts of change. It all started innocently enough. Passing thoughts of changing my appereance or learning something new.
Dye your hair strawberry blonde. Get a tattoo. Pierce something.
It’s not unusual for me to think about change but lately the thoughts have been growing louder and more persistant.
Start running. Learn to make jewelry.
Figure out what you want to do with your life.
And I can’t seem to drown them out as hard as I try.
Take a big risk. Pack up your life and move across country. Do something that scares you. Just take a risk.
It’s not that these thoughts are bad to think about. But when they start screaming all at once, my chest gets tight and its hard to breathe.
Go back to school. Get a new job. Leave this one you don’t even like. What exactly are you doing?
I guess life has been pretty stagnant for awhile. I’m sort of stuck in a bubble of safety living at home, hanging out with my best friends from high school, all still living here in my hometown. Not having to really step outside my comfort zone for two years now. Just moving along.. going with the flow… standing still when I should be moving forward.
How about you start dating again? Take a chance with that.
Or maybe, move away even if everyone else is staying.
Update your resume. Send it out. Look in all different places. You’ll never leave without a reason.
And these thoughts, they just don’t stop. I can’t make them stop.
Hi, this is your quarter life crisis talking and I’m here to stay.
30 Comments
May 20, 2009 at 7:16 pm
This is so dead on! I’ve just started ignoring the myriad voices telling me to do any number of different, often contradictory things, and started focusing instead on a few doable things. I’m going to beat you yet, quarter life crisis!
May 29, 2009 at 8:32 am
Yes, focusing on the do-able things is definitely the way to go.. good luck!
May 20, 2009 at 9:53 pm
I was missing your posts! I’m glad you’re back. I couldn’t agree with u more! I’m turning 25 in july and I feel like such a disappointment. Are you thinking about indulging any of these thoughts? Doing something risky sounds excellent! I’ll do it with you
May 29, 2009 at 8:34 am
Yes, yes, I am going to indulge in some of the thoughts and you should indulge in some of your own as well!!
May 21, 2009 at 7:01 am
So that’s what a quarter life crisis is!
May 29, 2009 at 8:34 am
Yep, she’s a nagging biatchhhh
May 21, 2009 at 9:07 am
I’m going through the exact same thing, mostly because i just got out of a long term relationship. i hear change is good, so just go for it while you can! you don’t want to think about what you *could* have done at this age when you’re older.
May 29, 2009 at 8:35 am
You’re absolutely right! And change is good.. but scary…
May 21, 2009 at 9:30 am
Welcome. I’ve been dealing with this for almost three years now. It’s a bitch, but I hear we’re all better off when we come out the other end
May 29, 2009 at 8:36 am
I hope so!
May 21, 2009 at 9:41 am
I can so identify! Well to start running would definitely be nothing but a benefit. Start small?
May 29, 2009 at 8:36 am
Good idea
May 21, 2009 at 12:29 pm
I have these thoughts on a daily basis.
So, I’m going to give this law school thing a try. We’ll see.
May 29, 2009 at 8:37 am
Good luck with Law School!
May 21, 2009 at 6:53 pm
I’m having trouble with all the breaking down from seeing I havent achieved anything great enough in my life and not to burst the bubble yet.
Soon, soon. This will pass, right?
May 29, 2009 at 8:40 am
Yes, I hope so… and maybe the whole point is that its suppose to kick us in the butt and get us moving in the right direction, once we get through the whole confusion part.
May 21, 2009 at 9:25 pm
I went through a quarter life crisis too, it’s normal. And maybe you should try to mix it up a little bit to help you feel like you’re doing something different. Nothing wrong with some change.
May 29, 2009 at 8:41 am
Yea, I definitely think I need to mix it up a little.. I think I’m just craving a change.
May 22, 2009 at 10:13 am
Oh gosh…quarter life crisis… Well… Maybe try to do a little of what you want to do. Make a list of things you want to achieve or do for this month. And basically start from there. =)
May 29, 2009 at 8:43 am
Great advice… that’s pretty much what I decided to do.. thanks
May 22, 2009 at 3:56 pm
We all need a change every now and again. A little kick in the butt to get us moving…
May 29, 2009 at 8:44 am
I think you’re definitely right… maybe this quarter life crisis isn’t so bad afterall…
May 27, 2009 at 11:42 am
When I feel like this I do one of the things that my mind is suggesting I do.
So maybe start small with the hair color situation.
And then work your way up to the updating resume, sending it out and etc.
I still have thoughts like this. Daily, probably. I know how you feel. And I don’t quite know what to do to make it go away.
May 29, 2009 at 8:48 am
I’m starting to think maybe its good that we have these thoughts.. and we shouldn’t want to wish them away…
May 27, 2009 at 1:20 pm
This is good! I mean, crisis part aside, it’s healthy to be forward-thinking, to want something more than the status quo. Most of the things you’re yearning for are totally within your grasp, so why not do it?
Believe me, I can totally relate to how you’re feeling. Just today, I put a life list up on my blog (http://www.girlandcity.com/about/life-list/) and felt a little overwhelmed, but what I tell myself is to take small steps. Every item I check off will make me feel leaps and bounds closer to the person I want to be when I’m 25, 30, and beyond.
May 29, 2009 at 8:59 am
That’s what I’m trying to do.. and you’re right, I’m thinking it’s a good thing!
May 29, 2009 at 5:40 am
The only way to make this quaterlife crisis disappear is actually to LIVE. There’s no other solution. Try to put yourself out of your comfort zone, set goals, make new experiences… Why not going abroad for a while this summer or take a year off? That’s when you learn the most.
What I know about this little voice is that sometimes you should listen to it because it means you’re no comfortable where you are now, but sometimes just try to tell this voice to shut up because there’s a lot of toxic thoughts in it …
Good luck with that !! And remember, you’re not alone ! And i know so many 20something who would love to talk with you about that because they feel the same way
May 29, 2009 at 9:02 am
Thanks! I agree that I think I need to put myself out of my comfort zone and LIVE…
June 6, 2009 at 4:08 pm
wow
June 6, 2009 at 4:09 pm
so im not mad?